What If You Could Finally Know What You Want - In Just 7 Days?

 

Reconnect with your true desires and stop living on autopilot, even if you’ve spent your whole life putting others first and feel completely disconnected from your own desires.

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DEAR ELDEST DAUGHTER,


I know what it’s like to feel empty.

To be alive… but not really living.

To wake up and go through the motions in a life that feels colorless, like everything is black and grey. On the outside, you look like you have it all together. But inside? You feel disconnected. Numb. Tired.

I know what it’s like to imagine your future and feel nothing but dread because it all looks so mundane, so heavy, and so far from what you actually want.

I know what it’s like to want more… but have no idea how to get there.

To keep doing the things you were told you should do, and still feel like something’s missing.

To realize that somewhere along the way… you lost you.

And now, you feel like a shell of the person you used to be, or the person you were meant to become.
You may not know exactly what you want yet, but deep down, you know this:

You can't keep living like this.

BUT THAT CHANGES TODAY

 

You’re reading this because something inside you knows this isn’t the life you were meant to settle for.

You’re not happy with where things are because deep down, you know there’s more.

You want to live a life that actually fulfills you.

A life that excites you. That feels like yours.

A life that reflects what God has actually placed on your heart, not just what your family, culture, or community expected from you.

No more expectations. No more people pleasing.

Just you finally choosing yourself.

And that all starts with one thing most women were never taught how to claim:

Clarity.

Knowing what you want changes everything; it turns indecision into direction and pressure into peace.

INTRODUCING...

THE CLARITY CODE

 

A 7-day course to help you stop settling, silence the second-guessing, and finally get clear on what you want. Not what you were taught to want, not what your family expects, but what God actually placed on your heart.

HERE'S WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN 7 DAYS:

DAY 1: Why You’re So Tired All the Time (And It’s Not Just Burnout)

Start by uncovering the hidden emotional weight you’ve been carrying, and why “just resting” hasn’t been working. You’ll finally understand why you’re always exhausted (even when nothing’s “wrong”).

DAY 2: Who Are You Without The Pressure to be Perfect?

You’ll explore how being the eldest daughter shaped your identity, and start releasing the unrealistic standards that have kept you stuck in survival mode.

DAY 3: Why Wanting More Doesn’t Make You Selfish

Release the guilt that’s been making you second-guess every desire. You’ll learn how to stop feeling selfish for wanting more, and finally give yourself permission to want without explaining, apologizing, or shrinking.

DAY 4: Get Clear On What You Actually Want (Not What Was Expected of You)

You’ll dig beneath the noise of family, culture, and expectations to uncover what you actually want, and start building a vision that aligns with your faith, values, and truth.

DAY 5: Break Through What’s Really Holding You Back

Uncover the deep-rooted beliefs that make you feel like the life you want isn’t realistic, deserved, or “for someone like you.” These aren’t facts, they’re inherited fears. And it’s time to let them go.

DAY 6: Build the Life You Actually Want - On Paper, On Purpose

Map out the life you actually want in full, unapologetic detail. You’ll put words to the lifestyle, work, income, and relationships you truly desire, and meet the version of you who’s finally ready to live it without holding back.

DAY 7: Protect Your Peace, Your Vision, and Your Future

Set clear, non-negotiable boundaries and write the personal declaration that marks your line in the sand. This is where clarity becomes commitment. You’ll leave with a vision you can protect, and a standard you no longer shrink to meet.

Take My Life Back

WHO'S THIS FOR?

 

This course is for the eldest daughter who... 

âś“ Spent her whole life putting everyone else first

✓ Feels guilty for desiring more, but also knows she can’t keep living like this

âś“ Was held to higher standards, and now struggles to rest or receive

âś“ Is faith-driven and ready to align with what God really wants for you, not just what your parents, culture, or community expect

✓ Is ready to finally ask: What do I want?

Know your desires so you can stop living for everyone else...

HERE'S WHAT YOU CAN EXPECT

 Before The Clarity Code 

 

âś— You feel disconnected from yourself

✗ You don’t know what you truly want, so you keep chasing what you “should” want

âś— You second-guess everything and overthink every decision

✗ You carry guilt for wanting more or dreaming bigger

✗ You’re building a life that looks good on the outside but doesn't fulfill you

 After The Clarity Code 

 

âś“ You have crystal-clear clarity on the life you want to create

✓ You know how to make decisions with clarity, peace, and confidence

âś“ You feel deeply connected to your desires and your faith

✓ You're ready to build a life that fulfills and excites you

✓ You’ve released the guilt, fear, and pressure that used to control you

MEET YOUR INSTRUCTOR

ABOUT ME

 

Hi, I’m Tomi, eldest daughter of Nigerian immigrants and founder of Dream Life With T! I did everything right for years - got the grades, went to Brown, studied abroad at Oxford, and made everyone proud. But somewhere along the way, I lost myself. I didn’t know what I wanted; I only knew how to succeed, keep the peace, and carry the weight for everyone else.

I created The Clarity Code because I know I’m not the only one. So many of us were raised to be strong, selfless, and silent about our needs. This course is the exact process I wish I had: a space to breathe, reflect, and finally get honest about the life you want. 

 

Helping eldest daughters build lives they love is my life’s work...

WHAT'S INCLUDED INSIDE THE CLARITY CODE?

Over 7 powerful days, you'll get:

 Guided Video & Audio Lessons

Bite-sized coaching to help you reflect, reset, and reconnect with what you actually want

 Scripture Integration

Each day includes thoughtfully chosen Bible verses to support your reflection and help you stay grounded in truth as you seek clarity.

 Comprehensive Daily Worksheets

No fluff. These are deep, thought-provoking prompts designed to help you gain real clarity and take action.

EXCLUSIVE BONUSES 

When you upgrade to the premium bundle, you’ll also get these 4 exclusive bonuses

The Eldest Daughter Detox: Release the Pressure & Rebuild on Truth

Value: $197 

What's Included:

✓ A 5-step detox process to release guilt, perfectionism, and pressure you didn’t choose

âś“ Truth vs. Lie worksheets to rewire the beliefs keeping you stuck in survival mode

âś“ Reflective prompts that help you finally separate who you are from who you had to be

The Dream Girl Devotional: Scripture & Reflection for Your Becoming Season

Value: $97 

What's Included:

âś“ 14 powerful devotionals with scripture and reflection to help you hear God clearly again

âś“ Journaling prompts to move from fear and self-doubt to trust and obedience

âś“ Faith-based encouragement to align your identity with what God actually says about you

The Confidence Code: 21 Days to Strengthen Your Voice, Confidence & Inner Peace 

Value: $77 

What's Included:

âś“ Daily prompts that help you rebuild self-trust and stop second-guessing yourself

âś“ Voice activation exercises to speak up without fear, even when it feels hard

âś“ Weekly reflections to track your growth and stay grounded in who you're becoming

The Say No Script Book: Boundaries, Phrases & Power Lines for Every Situation

Value: $127

What's Included:

âś“ 50+ boundary scripts so you never feel caught off guard in hard conversations again

âś“ Step-by-step framework to say no without guilt, shame, or over-explaining

âś“ Confidence-boosting phrases that help you protect your peace and speak up with love

WHAT'S YOUR INVESTMENT?

7 days of life coaching could easily cost over $1,000.


But you don’t need a coach who doesn’t understand the unique experience of the eldest daughter.
You need a proven process that was made for you by someone like you.

That’s what The Clarity Code is.

Now choose your access:

GENERAL ACCESS

$67

 

Perfect if you want to dive in, get clear, and take action right away. 

 

âś“ 7 Days of Guided Lessons (total of 13 lessons!)

âś“ Clarity-Focused Worksheets to Help You Decide What You Actually Want

âś“ 30-Day Access So You Can Go at Your Own Pace

ENROLL NOW

PREMIUM ACCESS

$167

 

Best for daughters who want full support, lifetime access, and exclusive bonuses.

 

✓ Everything in General Access PLUS

✓ 4 Exclusive Bonuses (Total value of $500)

âś“ Lifetime Access to All Course Materials

âś“ 7-Day Refund Policy (upon course completion)

UPGRADE TO PREMIUM

Don’t Wait, Doors Close July 31

 

You’ve spent years living for everyone else.

This is your moment to choose you.

The Clarity Code officially begins August 1, and doors close July 31 at midnight, no exceptions. Once enrollment ends, it’s closed until the next round (and that’s not guaranteed).

Spots for this first cohort are already filling.

This isn’t something you “think about and come back to later.”

It’s the reset you’ve been praying for, and it’s available right now.

Make your decision before time runs out. Your future is waiting.

YOU'RE NOT TOO LATE - JOIN NOW!

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

You’ve Spent Long Enough Living for Everyone Else.

 

Now it’s your turn. 

The Clarity Code isn’t just a course, it’s your reset. Your moment to pause, reflect, and finally get clear on what you want. 

Don’t overthink it. Don’t wait for the “perfect” time. 

If something in you knows it’s time to choose you, trust that.

I’m Ready to Choose Me